Our self-talk is probably one of the most important factors in our happiness and success – but it can also undermine the even the most talented and likeable people if they are unaware of their self-talk or fail to understand its significance. The reason why it is so important is because of the cycle it sets up; it impacts on our self-belief and then in turn our performance (at work, in sport, in relationships etc). Poor performance feeds negativity back to our self-talk and so the cycle continues.
One of the first steps I help clients take is to ask them to write down some positive thoughts about themselves; most tell me that they find this difficult and of course anything can be difficult if you’ve never done it before. Over time this new skill can be practised and established as a means of countering the old negative self-talk and by beginning to change the cycle to a positive one. Positive self-talk can also provide a psychological barrier against loss of confidence when we face challenges in life – just because we find a situation difficult doesn’t mean we have to feel bad about ourselves.
Positive self-talk bolsters our confidence no matter what is happening in the outside world and allows us to navigate our way through to the very best of our ability; it helps us to reframe a mistake or lapse in focus and to get back on track. Many a sports person has been down a point, dropped the ball or scored an own goal but has used their positive self-talk to pull themselves up and back into the lead. In everyday life we too sometimes take our eye off the ball and it’s the positivity of our self-talk that can help us stay calm and regain our composure and focus; wherever we go, whatever we do, whoever we are with, we take our self-talk with us. If you need help to improve your self-talk and confidence then call 07899625156.